Tips To Help If You’re Stuck in a Job That You Don’t Like
I have been working since I turned 16. There was just something about having my own money to buy what I wanted but mostly it was so I could help my single mom who had always taught me the value of a dollar. I witnessed her struggle on many occasions and wanted to do whatever I could to take away some of that burden.
I remember my first job was working as a bagger at Smith’s. I was so proud of myself and wanted to be the best worker ever, until they told me I had to work on Thanksgiving. “What? You want me to work on Thanksgiving? Aren’t we supposed to be closed and home with our families?!” This would be the first of my many realities of growing up and working in the real world and deciding there were a lot more disappointments being an adult than fun times.
I have not had a ton of jobs because I’ve always tried to stick it out as long as possible but believe me there were many times that I would say why am I still here and then realize, that’s right you have a car payment and adult responsibilities.
Job Advice: Stay or Go?
I definitely would say if you are stuck in a job that you do not like, you need to sit back and evaluate the situation. Figure out why it is that you are unhappy with your current situation before you do something irrational like just walking out that door. Is it really the job or is it you? Do you have a positive mind set, are you trying your hardest, being pro-active, efficient and productive? Sometimes changing your mindset can ultimately be the game changer.
Then there are those times that you have sat back and evaluated and the environment is just not for you or the job you are doing is just not for you. There is absolutely nothing wrong with this. Although, again I will say, don’t be irrational and just walk out the door. Part of being an adult is being a responsible adult. That means you find something different before you just up and quit. Then do your research, to figure out which job it is that is going to make you happy, so you can stick around and grow. You want to find something where you can plant your feet and ultimately grow into a better you. I tell my employees all the time, I know that you probably won’t stay forever but if you can leave here better than when you came, I have done my job.
Don’t Burn Bridges!
And never ever burn bridges. Make sure you give your current employer notice so that they have adequate time to find a replacement. Although they may not be happy that you’re leaving, it’s a lot more understandable when you leave on good terms. Plus, it’s always nice to have great references.
Lastly, don’t ever stay somewhere that makes you totally miserable because you don’t like change. This does not help you physically or mentally. It can take years off of your life, and then ten years later when you’ve finally decided to move on but didn’t because you were scared, you suddenly realize all that you could’ve accomplished. Holding yourself back because you are scared is neither healthy nor productive. You only have one life to live so make it count by being responsible but smart, and most of all HAPPY!
Turning a staff of individuals into a team is one of the best ways to create a positive and profitable work environment. Successful teamwork helps employees use each other as resources, work with confidence and truly enjoy their workplace. A staff that works as a team creates more opportunities for an effective business. Here are some ways to change individual employees into a winning team.
Keep the work place clean, comfortable and safe
This is the first step in creating a successful work place, no matter the occupation. If employees don’t feel safe and comfortable at work, much of their focus will go to simply trying to make it through the day. The easiest way to create a positive atmosphere is to make sure that it is one where every employee can feel cared for and valued.
Encourage interaction across all departments
Businesses attract all sorts of people that may not cross paths otherwise. A great way to foster positive relationships between employees is to boost communication. Set an example by interacting with someone in a different department. Encourage employees to eat lunch and take breaks together. If people are given the chance to get know each other better, any work they partner on will benefit.
Create collaboration opportunities
Help employees to meet and interact with different people than they usually do. Facilitate this by creating small groups for projects. Introverted or shy employees may feel more comfortable speaking up and contributing when group sizes are limited. This may also help workplace leaders listen to other perspectives.
Sponsor gatherings outside of work
Do your employees love baseball? Trivia? Book readings? Listen to office chatter to find out what the staff likes, and create a fun opportunity for employees to meet up outside of work. Staff can get to know each other better and create memories that will organically create team bonding.
Trust may be the most important factor in any successful team. In order to work together, the individuals that make up a team have to be able to rely on each other. Trust is created by allowing positive work relationships to form, and by quickly addressing a situation that could create a breach of trust. When employees support one another, their potential is unlimited.
Staying Focused at Work Amidst the Chaos of the Holidays
As the seasons change here in Utah, the anticipation for the holiday season makes itself very prominent all around us. As we walk into stores we see the displays changing to Thanksgiving and Christmas sometimes BEFORE Halloween has even arrived. As we walk the streets we see city workers hanging lights and garland. Ready or not, the holidays are upon us! For many of us, these are welcomed sights reminding us of many traditions past and family gatherings where memories will soon be made. For others, it can be the start of an anxiety attack that makes it hard for them to get out of bed every day and get to work.
Whether you’re eager to welcome the holiday season with open arms or considering moving to a deserted island until the holidays are over, here are a few helpful tips to help you stay focused while at work.
Holiday Work Tip #1: Time Management
With all the cooking, shopping, cleaning to prepare for guests, commuting to and from work and dealing with added traffic from travelers, driveways and walks to shovel and parties to attend, it’s important to plan accordingly. Don’t wait to do all your Thanksgiving grocery shopping until the day before! Don’t wait until the weekend before Christmas to go check off all the gifts on your list. Doing so will add stress to your life and life-stress spills into work and causes additional anxiety. Also, try taking a day or two off a couple weeks before the holiday to beat the rush in the stores and enjoy some time off before the hordes of people hit the streets and stores.
Holiday Work Tip #2: Take a Lesson From The Scrooge
We’ve all seen or heard the story of Ebenezer Scrooge from Dicken’s A Christmas Carol. If Scrooge can ultimately find happiness during the holidays, why can’t we? It just takes a little reflection and maybe even a little spin-selling to turn those negative thoughts into positive ones.
I, for one, do not like the snow during the holidays BUT my kids LOVE it and I enjoy watching them play in the snow. Therefore, taking them sledding brings happiness to my kids’ lives which in turn makes me happy. When I’m happy in my personal life it spills over into my work life. See how that works?
I’m not a huge fan of traffic and long lines at the stores BUT I do enjoy shopping online for cyber-deals and taking advantage of many retailers offering free shipping during the holidays which saves me from waiting in lines. Finding deals and saving on shipping takes away some of the financial stress during the holidays which doesn’t make me feel like I need to work extra hours to earn extra cash. Can I call this a win-win? Close enough.
Like most people, I’m always trying to watch my weight but the influx of food and treats around the holidays make it tough to stay in shape and not indulge in all our foodie desires BUT during the holidays there are plenty of football games on TV. (I know what you’re thinking, how is TV gonna help us watch our weight?) Well, I struggle staying entertained at the gym but you throw on some great football games and I could ride a bike for hours in front of that TV! As a bonus, hitting the gym increases my energy which helps me focus at work. Sneaky, right?!
To sum it up, it’s up to us to take control of our stress levels. Let’s work on our time management, be prepared, take a lesson from Scrooge and find ways to just sit back and enjoy the moment in hopes we don’t get overwhelmed and cause our work to suffer. Cheer up and make the most of the holidays!
A Healthy Work-Life Balance or the Best of Both Worlds
Work-Life Balance is a concept that implies there’s a particular balance between your work life and your personal life that can optimize your happiness. Achieving a healthy work-life balance can help you have the best of both worlds.
We’ve all met the so-called “workaholic.” What are some words that come to mind when you hear that word: Busy? Stressed? Overwhelmed?
How about the individual at the opposite end of the spectrum without a job or not happy with their job: Bored? Disengaged? Inactive? Stressed?
Is Your Work-Life Balance Out of Whack?
Regardless of the particular words used, living on either of the spectrum could make many of us feel out of whack. We might be the workaholic wishing we had more time with our friends and family. We could also be the unemployed individual stressing about working in order to feed themselves and their family. Getting/having a job is the first part of the equation, but what about having a life?
I hesitate to suggest finding the “middle ground” between the two, though. I simply suggest finding what works best for you and makes you the happiest.
It’s important to understand what your personal priorities are and how much time and attention should be given to each aspect of your life: career and ambition, health, pleasure, leisure, family, spiritual development, etc. There is a myriad of different aspects to your life, I’m sure, and each of us is different than the next. Take some time to consider what’s most important to you and what deserves your utmost attention.
If family is what’s most important to you, make sure you are setting time aside throughout the week to spend time with them. Personally, we have family night every Wednesday. We make it a point to pick up the kids after work and head out for a night of dinner and sometimes a movie. It’s also a priority of mine to make sure the kids get the attention they need after school to complete their homework and any other school projects.
There are times where I’ve had to cancel other plans or miss out on something fun so that I can attend to those needs. At the end of the day, I’m still happy regardless of missing out on the other plans, because I’m sticking with the priority I’ve determined for myself and believe the outcome will be far greater in the long run than what I missed out on.
A Balancing Act
It’s definitely a daily balancing act. I say the best way to achieve a healthy work-life balance is to be honest with yourself about your needs versus your wants. Make sure you are providing for you and your family’s needs, but don’t forget to splurge now and again to knock a few items off your wish list!
Constantly focusing on needs and viewing the wants as unnecessary can be just as stressful as constantly doing what you want and not attending to some of yours or your family’s needs. I believe that finding a work-life balance that includes all of your highest priorities is the key to keeping you sane and happy.
So go ahead and make a list of your wants and needs and see how you can fit a few from each list into your workweek. I believe the best way to determine the right balance for you is through trial and error, but don’t forget to be patient and understanding if things don’t work out as planned. If it makes you more stressed, then try something else.
Balancing Work and Family is Not Easy, But Worth it
Trying to juggle work and family is what everyone has to do now a days–no matter what your background–in order to pay the bills and get by or live comfortably.
Juggling Work and Kids
Having to get up early, get ready, and get kids ready for school or the babysitter is one thing most parents have to do. Especially when both parents have to work. Being able to get kids to school and yourself on time to work is a chore. Finding the right schedule and keeping your sanity is key to juggling both.
I believe you should always remember to leave work at work and home at home. Just because it was a bad day in the office does not mean it should be at home also. You have to go to work and think with a clear mind even though maybe the kids weren’t ready on time for school and had you running late for work. Or when the car in front of you is going slower then the speed limit. Or if the dogs did not want to go in their kennel. So many things could have gone wrong that morning. Forgetting about it and moving on is key.
Finding the Best Situation
“Of course a woman who decides to work full-time out of the home can be happy and deserves full respect from us. Motherhood is one of the most challenging and creative jobs anyone can do. The goal is to remake the world so that our choices are not so stark.” – Naomi Wolf
To make work (and the world) a better place you have to try your best and make the best of it. Always give it your 100% so that at the end of the day you know you tried your best to make things right. Work with people you like and can get along with–they are the people you spend most of your day with. Do what you like best. This will only make life easier. Not only will you like what you do, but at the end of the day get paid for it.
Love Your Job
I love my job. I get to grow in a company where I matter and can make a difference in people’s lives. Being able to help someone get a job so that they can support their family or themselves is a great feeling.
But Family is Always First
Making sure that your family is taken care of is the most important thing. Changing roles from working and being professional to being loving and caring is not as hard as people make it seem. My kids and husband mean the world to me. They make me feel important and want me to strive for success in anything I set my mind to. Having them in my life makes me work harder for our future.
As a mom I find myself in a slightly over-busy life of a working parent. But I enjoy being in the middle of both worlds and making the best of it.
When you want to succeed as much as you want to breathe, that’s when you will be successful.
Be there. Be in the moment of your life. Don’t let the little screen get in the way.
How many of you have gone out to eat with friends or family and at some point realized that every single person was on their phone
Between Snapchat, Instagram, Facebook, Twitter and so many other apps, do we ever have time to just hang out with people like we used to?
I know this is a big issue now days with all the social media, especially with the younger generation, but I wanted to address this issue in the workplace with adults. Not that it is necessarily an issue here at YES, but something that I feel we can all work on.
We are all adults and most of us do have work to go to. Yes, work can be awful for some people while others really enjoy it. Even if you do have a hard job that you don’t like so much, there are still good things that happen in your day right? I have found that I will sometimes miss a funny moment or miss becoming part of an “inside joke” when my coworkers are talking, all because I just had to check Instagram. When I do this, I am cutting myself off from my coworkers and doing so will eventually put a strain on the relationships at work.
That is no good!
Sometimes I will be interviewing a candidate and their eyes literally never come off their phone. When I ask them to please put their phone away during the interview they either get shy and embarrassed or almost act offended.
When did it become okay to be on your phone when you’re in the middle of a conversation with someone let alone an interview??
This kind of behavior has to stop! We have to learn to be IN the moment again! Not only will it make our lives more fun, but also it is also respectful to give someone your full attention. Surely that’s not too much to ask for right?
My advice is to just be there. Be in the moment of your life. Don’t let the little screen get in the way of the big important REAL things of life. Of course it’s fine and fun to check out social media every once in a while but don’t let it take away from your time at work! If it’s “slow,” start up a good conversation with your neighbor, tell a story, give suggestions, do something, just BE THERE. Don’t sit there in silence staring at your phone screen wishing you were somewhere else!
Life is hard, but there is some good in everyday and it’s up to us to recognize it.